Dear reader,

We all have that little voice in our heads. Sometimes it cheers us on, but often it becomes our harshest critic. Positive self-talk like “I’m amazing!” can feel fake when you don’t believe it. Negative self-talk like “I’ll never be good enough” only drags you down.

That’s where neutral self-talk comes in. It’s the middle path, acknowledging reality without judgment, while showing yourself compassion. For example: instead of “I’m awful at this,” try “I’m learning, and each attempt makes me better.”

This shift is small, but science shows it has a big impact. Studies reveal that neutral reframing calms the body’s stress response and creates more mental space for growth. It’s not about sugarcoating—it’s about being fair with yourself.

Which self-talk style do you use most often?

• Positive (“I’m amazing!”)

• Neutral (“I’m growing”)

• Critical (“Not enough”)

Visual Takeaway:
Neutral Self-Talk = Realistic + Kind

Why It Matters More as We Age

Neutral self-talk is more than mental fluff; it’s linked to lower stress hormones, improved sleep, and even healthier heart function. Stress takes a toll on our bodies, especially as we age. Reframing our inner words can literally protect long-term health.

And here’s something powerful: this skill can be taught to kids and grandkids. When we show younger generations how to speak kindly to themselves, we pass along a tool that lasts a lifetime.

Your Mini Challenge

Catch one critical thought this week. Rewrite it in a neutral, kind way. Notice how your body feels when you soften your words.

Member Spotlight: Amanda Cowlrick

We’re excited to welcome Amanda Cowlrick, founder of Replenish Healing®, to the International Organization of Fantastic Professionals. Based in Auckland, New Zealand, Amanda is a Homeopath, Reiki Master, and Atua Healing Practitioner whose retreats and healing practice empower individuals to restore balance in mind, body, and spirit. She also serves as Vice-Chair of the Reiki NZ Board, where she helps advance Reiki practice across the country.

Amanda brings a wealth of experience as both a healer and entrepreneur, blending natural health expertise with strong leadership. Her work has been featured in Brainz and Verve NZ, furthering her mission to inspire resilience and holistic wellness.

On joining IOFP, Amanda shared:
“Becoming part of the International Organization of Fantastic Professionals is a deeply meaningful milestone. It’s a chance to stand alongside others who are passionate about uplifting and healing our world. I’m excited to share, learn, and grow in this incredible community.”

🔗 To learn more about Amanda and her work, visit Replenish Healing®.

Conclusion

A single thoughtful question can change the course of your evening—and your tomorrow. End each day with curiosity and kindness, and you’ll begin to see every night as a stepping stone toward a brighter, more meaningful life.

See you next week,
Dr. Allen Lycka
Helping you live a fantastic life — on your terms.